letter 33: it's phoenix rising szn

Jul 24, 2023

the phoenix is a mythical golden bird associated with renewal and regeneration. rising from the ashes of its previous life, the phoenix is a symbol of hope, of life and of better things to come, born from the knowledge and experience of difficult times and challenging circumstances.

hi sweet pea’s,

how’s it going over there in your world?

on my end, i’ve been processing the new reality of having shared my divorce and I feel free. it was all starting to feel like an unnecessary secret that was eventually going to consume me, so now that it’s all in the open it doesn’t feel like a looming shadow anymore.

contrary to what social media convinces us, I think there’s something powerful, and simultaneously sacred about sharing the imperfections of life with others. since sharing this news publicly, my dm’s have been flooded with personal stories from women all across the internet sharing how much my openness about this topic means to them because they’re either currently going through a divorce, thinking about getting one, or have in the past and see themselves reflected in me.

am I surprised by this?

no.

why?

well, because women are starved for stories like this; I know this because I was (and still am!) one of those women. in the aftermath of my life undergoing such a transformation it was difficult to access stories about women my age bouncing back and reclaiming their lives. now, I have the chance to offer representation in this particular realm of womanhood and not only do I feel like it’s a new calling of mine to divulge these new insights, but it also feels like one of the most soulful offerings I can freely right now.

women have been deprived of stories offered by other women that offer the revelations that came out of their hero’s journey, and thus many of us have become terrified of going beyond the models of life proposed to us.

we are reminded over and over again that society believes we’re disposable, so in choosing to do something like getting a divorce or anything else that brands us as ‘damaged’ it’s almost as if we’re intentionally signing up to be castaways, but what i’ve come to realize is that we can reject that.
not only can we opt out of the scarlet letter story arc, but on the other side of playing it safe/settling/succumbing to societally imposed timelines we can build a new life and in turn…a new world.

we can rise from the ashes and be reborn over and over again, only becoming more wise, divine, and un-fuckwithable each time.

life is fickle, but it’s rich.

along the way, please remember the truest of truths, we are equipped to swim these waters.

with love always,

cat, a gal tryin’ her best